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It’s official guys, we are moving. I will have more information this week along with posts. There are a few little kinks to work out but we are dropping the wordpress. More later this week. Stay tuned and stay with me.
I was lucky; I had someone to teach me about the pitfalls of life, love and the pursuit of happiness. I had several people actually. It takes a village to raise a child, right? Although my father was absent, I still had some male presence in my life. Doing laundry, mopping floors, cooking, washing dishes; and I ain’t talking about loading a machine either. Not to mention gardening; planting fruits and vegetables. These are chores traditionally associated with women, but my grandfather taught me those things. He would pick me up on the weekend and during school breaks. He’d tell me that a man needs to know how to take care of himself. He’d say “Son, you never know where life is going to take you; you may be single, like me and need to do these things for yourself.” He also taught me how to cut grass, clip hedges, hang out at the barbershop or neighborhood mechanic’s garage and talk with the boys. As I got older he would tell me the stories about what happened with him and my grandmother; why they divorced. My grandfather had 5 children and he was not always the best husband but he did work, and he did sacrifice his dreams to provide for his family. I get my work ethic from him and I miss him.
I also had my uncle. He’s only 6 years older than me, and at first we were more like brothers. But there is a lot of learning that goes on in 6 years, my uncle began to experience things that I had to wait for. He began to take on more of a mentor and fatherly role in my life. He is my role model. He laid down a blue print for me. He also made some hard choices and never asked for a hand out. When money for college ran out, he went to the military. When he needed something, he didn’t ask for any gifts, he went out and got it. When we found out he was going to be a dad, he went back to school to make a better life for family. He always encourages me to be my best. I can call on him any time and he is there when I need him.
On this Father’s Day, I want to give a big shout out to the two men that taught me the most about life, work, love, survival, discipline and sacrifices. If that isn’t fatherhood, I don’t know what is.
Some of you HR professional may not have had this happen lately, so try to think back. The rest of you, just listen. Sometimes when I talk to friends and family it’s like they don’t really believe me or take my information until they hear it from another source. I can’t tell you the amount of times that I advised someone close to me of something Human Resource related only for them to tell me later, that they read or saw someone else say the same thing, and now they believe me. “Hey man, you were right!” yeah no sh!t Sherlock!
But sometimes, every once and a while, someone says something to me that humbles me…They pay me a huge compliment by telling me how my advice or blog helped them. In the industry, we call it a testimonial, and here it is… After reading my post titled “Accountability” My friend David told me “Went on an interview today and they asked me the question … I got the contract!!!” And someone else told me that they took some advice on creating a social media profile, and now they are getting more job interviews. Finally, I have had several people tell me that because of the blog, they have gained more understanding of the HR process within their own jobs.
Kobe Bryant often times talk about being a student of the game of basketball, after 15 years of being a professional, he still studies it. I am still a student of HR, years after graduation and working, I’m still learning because things change. People change; workforces change, laws change and HR professionals have to change. I read a lot of stuff on these blogs some of it I like, some not so much, but I consider it because it’s valid. From a standpoint that these are the HR professionals making and enforcing the rules, so I can’t dismiss it if I like it or not, it’s out there. I take it, process it with along with what I have experienced in my lifetime and then offer my spin on it. And my spin is pure awesomeness!
I love Human Resources. I also love the Celebrity Apprentice. I been watching it for years, since it was the regular Apprentice, and Omarosa was on. I watched the latest episode, in which NBC has been hyping, even before this season aired. And it lived up to the hype. If you don’t know, it was Nene Leaks vs. Starr Jones; street cred vs. Corporate pedigree. Nene is a reality star, known for her temper, on the Bravo network series “Real Housewives of Atlanta” which is interesting because most of them are single or divorced, and work, which would mean they’re not by definition HOUSE WIVES! It’s a shame I know too much about that crap.
NBC, in what was a brilliant move to gain ratings and a connection to a certain demographic, got Nene to join the cast. And to heighten the drama they added Starr Jones, famed lawyer, former co-anchor of the View, and uh…well read her bio. They would seem to be polar opposites. But not so fast, Nene is no dummy; she plays the game too, just differently. Fact is, some people love Nene. She has a pretty impressive following of her own, over 369k on Twitter. (way more than me) They are attracted to her upfront, in your face, outspoken, call-you-out, confrontational style.
But does that style translate in the business world? I’m watching this episode and in the beginning, the host is explaining the task and selecting the project manager; Nene goes “bananas” on Starr. This can only be described as a verbal onslaught, a profanity laden diatribe, of hate and intimidation and she called another teammate a puppet. It was ugly, like death sucking on a soda cracker!
No surprise to anyone with any leadership skills, they lost the challenge. And here is why they lost, you cannot “diss” your employees, co-workers or team mates and then expect them to produce. Team morale and production is a direct reflection of leadership or a lack there of. Leaders with poor communication skills; abusive, unprofessional or no communication at all, will totally alienate and demoralize team members. Once that happens the team members become unattached, disconnected and indifferent. The team dynamic is delicate, very fragile and can be broken easily. Sometimes it can be unidentified elements, like outside competition or internal jealously that could tear it apart. Bad communication, morale and attitudes are like fungus; they will spread and grow until eliminated. You can’t destroy your team chemistry and expect to win, that’s bad leadership. It’s the job of the “project manager” or leader to hold a team together. Hopefully, it is understood that what was seen on television is entertainment. But be warned, if you choose to follow the Nene Model of Leadership; be prepared to lose, just as she did.